How to Write a Meaningful Obituary

Start with the Basics: Key Information

The first step in writing an obituary is to include the essential details. This will help family, friends, and the community know when and where your loved one passed away, as well as basic information about their life.



• Full name
• Age at the time of death
• Date and place of birth
• Date and place of death
• Names of close family members (spouse, children, siblings, etc.)
• Funeral or memorial service details (date, time, location)

Example:
“John Thomas Smith, 78, of Fairmont, Minnesota, passed away peacefully on November 14, 2024, surrounded by family at his home. He was born on June 3, 1946, in Fairmont to Sarah and Robert Smith. John is survived by his wife of 50 years, Margaret; children, James (Sarah) Smith and Emily (Michael) Wright; grandchildren, Thomas and Claire Wright; and his sister, Laura (Peter) Anderson.”

Share Their Story: Life Overview

This is the part of the obituary where you can begin telling the story of your loved one’s life. Focus on what made them special—what they loved, what they contributed to the world, and how they impacted those around them. Highlight their accomplishments, passions, and personality.

• Education, career, and achievements
• Hobbies, interests, and passions
• Community involvement or volunteer work
• Special qualities that made them unique

Example:
“John was a proud graduate of Fairmont High School and went on to attend the University of Minnesota, where he earned a degree in engineering. He worked as a mechanical engineer for over 40 years, contributing to the development of several important local projects. Outside of work, John was an avid fisherman, a passionate gardener, and a dedicated volunteer at the local food pantry. He was known for his sense of humor, love of family, and strong work ethic.”

Acknowledge Family and Close Friends

While it may seem like a given, it’s essential to mention surviving family members to recognize their support during the person’s life. It's also important to acknowledge any close friends, mentors, or those who may have had a significant impact on your loved one’s life.

• List surviving family members
• Include any pre-deceased relatives, if desired

Example:
“John was preceded in death by his parents, Sarah and Robert Smith, and his brother, William Smith.”

Mention Donations or Charitable Contributions (If Desired)

If your loved one had a favorite charity or cause that they supported, or if the family prefers donations in lieu of flowers, this is the right place to include that information.

• Mention a favorite charity or cause
• Provide details on how to make donations in honor of your loved one

Example:
“Memorial donations in John’s honor can be made to the Fairmont Community Food Pantry, a cause that was close to his heart.”

Funeral or Memorial Service Details

Ensure that your obituary includes all the details regarding the funeral, memorial service, visitation, or any other planned gatherings. This will help loved ones know when and where they can gather to honor the deceased.

• Date, time, and location of services
• Any special requests (e.g., casual dress, no flowers, etc.)

Example:
“A celebration of life will be held on November 18, 2024, at 1:00 PM at Sinn Family Celebration of Life, 123 Main Street, Fairmont. Family and friends are invited to join us in honoring John’s memory. In accordance with his wishes, casual attire is encouraged.”

Personal Touches: A Final Thought

Adding a personal touch or a favorite quote, poem, or saying can provide warmth and leave a lasting impression. Think of something that reflects your loved one’s personality or legacy.

• Favorite quotes
• A special memory or thought
• A personal message to the deceased

Example:
“John’s family and friends will remember him for his unwavering kindness and his ability to brighten any room with his laughter. He often said, ‘The best things in life aren’t things at all, they’re the people we love.’ He will be deeply missed by all who knew him.”

In Conclusion

Writing an obituary is more than just sharing facts; it’s an opportunity to celebrate a life well-lived. By following these simple steps, you can create a meaningful tribute to your loved one that honors their memory and offers comfort to those who are grieving. At Sinn Family Celebration of Life Center, we’re here to help guide you through this process, providing support during one of life’s most difficult moments.

If you need assistance writing an obituary or planning a celebration of life service, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We’re here to help you celebrate life in a way that is meaningful, heartfelt, and true to your loved one’s legacy.